I
don’t know about you but it is my heart’s desire to see healthier, whole
relationships in my community and world. I believe that healthy, whole
relationships build healthy, whole communities. It is our God-given right to
live in communities where there is respect for neighbors and self; and if we
apply simple principles to our living, we can achieve whole, healthy
relationships, and ultimately wonderful unions throughout our country and the
world. The process starts with the man/woman in the mirror.
One of the Master teachers of all time, Jesus,
said in Matthew 22:36-40: “Love the Lord
your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest
commandment. And the second is like it:
Love your neighbor as yourself. All the
Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”
These
two commandments sound easy, but when we begin to apply them, they get a little
harder. How many of us love our neighbors
as ourselves? If your neighbor is rude,
loud and nasty, can you honestly say you can love them as you love
yourself? I would suggest that you work
on it until it’s a reality. It can be
done and I am a testament to that.
Having grown up in the south in the fifties and sixties (the Jim Crow
era), hatred consumed me. At a certain
point I realized I didn’t like this hard, cold person I had become embodying
all this hate. With love and through
changing my thoughts, words, and actions, ultimately I transformed. I believe this saved my life from further
toxic inner turmoil.
Martin
Luther King Jr. said it best when he cited:
“Love is the only force
capable of transforming an enemy into friend.”
If you
are reading this blog I will accept that you already have love in your life. Allow
me to introduce you to a small book called “The Four Agreements,” by Don Miguel
Ruiz, which can help to enhance your life.
I have embraced these “Four Agreements” and applied them to my everyday
life. I can tell you they have become part of my consciousness now. And while
they appear to be simple, applying them is work. But if applied they can be beneficial to your
coming union.
Don Miguel said, “1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
- Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak
against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the
direction of truth and love; 2. Don't Take Anything Personally - Nothing others do
is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality,
their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you
won't be the victim of needless suffering; 3.
Don't Make Assumptions - Find the courage to ask
questions and to express what you really want.
Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid
misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can
completely transform your life; and, 4.
Always Do Your Best -Your best is going to change
from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to
sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid
self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.”
Henceforth,
I invite you to bring alive the two commandments Jesus spoke of in Matthew
22:36-40 and “The Four Agreements,” by Don Miguel Ruiz. In doing so, I believe it will help create a
movement of healthy, whole relationships, which in turn will help build
healthy, whole communities, and ultimately, magnificent unions in our country
and the world.