I am learning that marriages when whole and healthy are a blessing to communities. Marriages offer an opportunity for couples as individuals to discover who they are and who they are not. You might want to ask yourself the following questions: am I kind to my mate? Am I giving? Am I forgiving? Am I bent on being right or having the last word?
Last weekend I was honored to be in the company of a couple who has been married for thirty-one years. I appreciated this experience. I felt privileged to see love in action. They were kind and loving, and there was a sparkle in their eyes when they looked at each other. I saw several loving glances during the time I spent with them. It was clear to me that they adored each other even after thirty-one years of marriage.
They gave me something to strive for in my marriage. I am praying that after thirty-one years my husband and I can still be as loving. But I also realize that this doesn’t just happen. We have to make conscious decisions to remain kind and loving, and never take the other person for granted or disrespect him or her. Most important, we must remember that communication is vital.
Also remember this verse in the Holy Bible: Mark 10: 9, which states, “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”